Describing yourself in an attractive way in 500 characters or less isn’t a walk in the park, so a lot of guys don’t even bother trying to write something good.
But that’s a mistake, because unless you’re Brad Pitt a weak bio is likely turning off all those attractive women you want to meet:
See the difference?
If she’s on the fence about your photos, odds are good your Tinder bio will be the deciding factor. Plus, she’ll definitely get around to checking it out before you’ve exchanged more than a couple back-and-forth messages.
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Want more Tinder matches that turn into Tinder dates? Use one of these 4 Tinder profile examples for inspiration!
Tinder Profile Example #1: Take It Over The Top
On Tinder, exaggerated humor combined with a cocky/funny attitude plays much better than it does on a dating site like Match.com. This style allows you to get creative and have a bit of fun with it.
While absurd and obviously not true, this bio is memorable and intriguing – especially if your photos aren’t that strong. (And if they aren’t, you need to read this article packed with tips for choosing online dating photos that get more dates).
But remember, humor is a subjective thing. Just because you and your bros think it’s funny, doesn’t she will.
You want right swipes, so make sure whatever you write makes you sound like a great catch.
Profile Tip: Over-the-top/cocky humor tends to work best for guys looking to date women in their 20s. If that’s not you, don’t worry – there are 3 different styles of Tinder profile examples coming right up!
Tinder Profile Example #2: Short & Sweet
You already saw one great Tinder profile example at the beginning of this article that’s short and sweet, and here’s another one:
This style of profile captures her attention with just a few words – and leaves her wanting more. Emoji were made for short dating profiles, as they’re visually interesting and convey a more complex idea at a glance.
The words “I like to travel, surf, eat sushi, and go mountain biking” are less compelling than the same concept expressed in emoji form.
The key to success here is highlighting a few of your most attractive traits.
If you keep it short and she doesn’t learn anything of substance about you, you’re just shooting yourself in the foot.
Profile Tip: If you’re easy on the eyes and have strong, visually interesting photos, Short & Sweet is likely the Tinder profile style for you. You don’t need to go over-the-top with your bio when you’ve got it going on in your photos.
Tinder Profile Example #3: Down To Earth
This profile example shows how to highlight all your best “husband material” traits in a creative, attention-grabbing way.
If she’s shopping for The One, you can bet she’s interested in knowing about your career and hobbies. In fact, 73% of women listed “occupation/intelligence” as one of the most desired traits they’re looking for in men on Tinder.
Make sure you’re only highlighting attractive traits, though.
Negativity isn’t hot, and if you call attention to a perceived flaw you think you have in a short dating profile, her first impression heads south quickly.
Profile Tip: If you’re in your mid-30s and looking for a relationship on the more serious end of the spectrum, this is your go-to style. It also works for younger guys looking for something long-term. This style attracts the marriage-minded set, and yes – those women are definitely on Tinder.
Tinder Profile Example #4 -Adventure Story
When you focus on the most exciting aspects of your life, you leave her craving more details. The most successful Tinder profiles evoke an emotional response in her, and this style does that in spades.
But it’s crucial that this “Adventure Story” profile style works with your pictures. It’s called congruence, and if you don’t have it, she’ll notice.
For example, if your profile talks all about your epic international adventures, but your photos are all bathroom selfies, she’s going to feel like something about you is off. You just torpedoed your odds of getting her number, much less scoring a date.
Profile Tip: Assuming your photos can back it up, this is the one style that potentially could work for any guy. Tales of adventure are universally appealing – what woman doesn’t get excited over a vividly described story packed with intrigue, travel, and a dash of danger?
Profile, Check. Next Up: Messaging!
Now that you’ve got 4 Tinder profile examples that really work, you need to start focusing on your messaging game.
Your profile will catch her attention, now you’ve got to hold on to it. But that’s a subject for a different article. Specifically, this one – it’s got 7 Tinder icebreakers that you’re definitely going to want to try.
Dating on apps has come a long way since its early days, which means it’s far more socially acceptable and you’re also going to be competing with a larger selection of trash than you might have done in the early days. As someone who dated using apps for years- and who met their boyfriend using a dating app– I can confirm that to get swiped left on, the bar is spectacularly low: a lot of people, men and women, straight and gay, are absolutely useless on these platforms. If you want to make sure that the foundations are in place, here is our guide to achieving the absolute bare minimum required for proving to your future partner you’re not a sack of shit.
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First: accept that you’re going to have to be confident
There is nobody on earth who, first time around, doesn’t hate the familiar ice breaker ‘give us one interesting fact about yourself’. The problem is: this is life. You are required to be open about yourself and be proud of the life you have chosen to live. Interesting does not mean sexy, audacious or incendiary, it just means what makes you unique. Everyone has it. Get comfortable with the fact that there are qualities about you that define you. Try picking out the things about yourself you wish people realised more about you. These are the things to boldly go in and sell to strangers on the internet.
Second: deal with the easy bits and do them right
Dating bios should all follow a simple rule: all the data in your profile (age, height, photos) should be as accurate as humanly possible. The bio, while also accurate, is where the hard sell can come in. I think we’d all rather go on a date with someone who photographs poorly but looks great in person than vice versa, and better to get the height-shaming, vain people out of the way now rather than let them have the moral advantage as soon as you go for your date.
At least half your pictures must be of you and only you. The majority of them should be ones you’d be happy to show their friends and mother. Feel free to post a topless pic, or a pic with friends, but the first picture must be an easily digestible photo of you, eyes visible, clothes on, with no other people around you. Otherwise people will either want to match with you to meet friend X, or they’ll get bored of playing Guess Who? and go elsewhere.
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Keep it brief
It is widely understood that the shorter the word count, the harder the task of writing it. Which is why you should view your Tinder bio as a piece of flash fiction. You want to say why you’re appealing without playing every card in your deck. This is the dance of the singular veil, if you will. Don’t second guess yourself. Try not to have long sentences full of clauses.
Be an individual
Remember that scene in Friends where Phoebe tries to reconnect with WHO by saying how much they enjoy pizza and The Beatles, with the joke being that of course they both like things that it’s very hard to dislike? Don’t be Phoebe. In this one instance, anyway.
Do not- DO NOT- rely on obvious interests or state anything that is a substitute for a personality rather than part of one. Everyone likes music and films. Oh, you enjoy going on holiday? You go to the gym? You like eating out? You like a drink? Join the rest of humanity, Brendan. Instead: what album are you obsessed with at the moment? What’s your favourite destination to visit and why? Do you have a preferred exercise class? What type of food gets you going? What alcohol are you an expert in? Keep it specific, and show that you have a personality. Because you have one! Everybody does! Nobody is attracted to vagueries, and you, dear reader, are not at all vague.
Negative profiles suggest negative people, which suggests you’ll be negging all the way through that first drink. Even escorts- and we could all do with taking more lessons from sex workers- focus on what they like doing rather than what they don’t like doing. Hate people who are late? Say you love people who are punctual. Hate chauvinists? Say you love a man who believes in equality/feminism/basic decency.
Also, do not think it’s acceptable to state what your type is in a profile. You know where your type is clear? In who you swipe left or right on. Do not make anyone feel like they’re not good enough to match with you. And never- I realise I’m being very negative in a section about positives- state if you have a racial preference. That is the sort of information you keep to yourself, and people will think you’re a dirtbag if you mention it.
Give someone a conversation starter
The most important thing- the most! Important! Thing!- in a dating profile is to provide springboards for future conversation. If you take nothing else away from this article, take this away.
A case in point: a friend of mine had just set up her Tinder and was finding no success. She’s pretty, her profile was fine, but what did people use to ask a question? Sure they could go with the standard ‘hey’, but nobody wants to give or receive that: you need a topic to leap off from. So we went through random facts about her and realised that she- unlike the rest of us proles- had a Blue Peter badge. Put that in your damn profile, I told her!
She later told me it not only upped the amount of responses, but made the ones she was getting more interesting. This is, effectively, science.
So many people decide that their profile has to be an Act 4 soliloquy about how hard done by they’ve been. Tinder is not that time. A first date is like a budget airline: you’re going to suffer if you bring too much baggage.
Don’t copy and paste someone else’s funny Tinder bio
Because, and I hate to break this to you, everyone else thought the same thing. Including the person you’re taking it from.
Be sex-positive, don’t be smutty
Make it clear what you’re bringing to the table, but it’s not necessary to clarify what you’ll bring to the bedroom. You make a great roast? Yes mate. You’re addicted to oral? Mazel tov, but imagine if that was how you introduced yourself in real life.
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How to open your chat
If there was a word cloud for Tinder, the word ‘hey’- no punctuation, no additions- would be the largest presence there. There’s absolutely nothing in it. Almost all variants of this are equally incompetent too: no winky faces. No ‘a hoy hoy’, no ‘how you doin’? How are you is… I mean it opens the floor up. But it doesn’t suggest a huge amount of interest.
Alternatively: Check their profile for things to work with first of all. If there’s nothing there that’s of interest- because they didn’t read this guide- ask them about a zeitgeist-y topic. Don’t make it niche: if it’s a TV show, make sure it’s Bodyguard rather than Supergirl, if it’s a news story, make sure it’s something exotic and exciting rather than a murder in their next of the woods, if it’s politics… actually, don’t talk politics.
Double entendre is an art form, and a rare delicacy that should not be served up for every meal. It’s very hard to not sound like you’re reading from a pick-up artist YouTube video, an R&B song and/or a Carry On movie. Being courageous is good, but being forward is something to be avoided unless it’s clearly a mutually appreciated style of conversation.
Alternatively: Not so much an alternate, but just… wait. If innuendo is clearly something both of you like, maybe it’s worth trying. Some people love smutty chat. That’s great! If you’re both down to have phonesex before meeting up, then who’s to stop you? But don’t force the conversation into that unless it’s naturally going there. Don’t set an intention for this conversation. Just see where it goes.
3.) Got pics?
Got pics, send nudes, all of their equivalents: no, no, no, no, no. Nudes are not the end of civilization, but people are not real estate and you are not entitled to a floor plan as part of the bargain. The Guyliner has written a fabulous guide for us on how to ask for nudes, and how to send dick pics, and all his advice carries over here: never do it unsolicited. Always build up to it. And do not expect it.
Alternatively: asking for pictures- even of their face, or anything similar- has to come from a place of interest rather than a place of incredulity. Never open with it, and if you do want to see pictures always build up to it and always be prepared to offer some in return. If it’s the start of the conversation, however, feel free to say something funny and observant about their pictures: do you recognise the bar they’re in? Do you love the TV show they have a tattoo referencing? All these are good options. ‘Nice knockers’ is not.
4.) You’re so close
Unless this is Grindr, where distance is actually given, this is weird. Even on Grindr, which is- I repeat- judged by distance, unless you’re 6ft away this is still a weird one.
Alternatively: if there’s a mutual friend, or a place in common, ask a question about it. Things in common don’t have to sound like the beginnings of a slasher film.
5.) Stupid stock pick-up lines
There are none of these creative commons chat-up lines that actually works. Not a single one. They all make you sound like a child, or a smug prick, and sometimes both.
Alternatively: there’s no alternative. Just be your-goddamn-self.
And, finally: if you’ve been talking for 24 hours and you’re not hating it, you should probably ask to take it up a notch, whether that’s moving to texting or even setting a date in the diary. Nobody is on Tinder to stay there. Fortune favours the bold, dear reader. I wish you the best of luck.