- The phrase “exclusive sex party” may elicit images of rich socialites having group sex in dark rooms, but at Manhattan-based playhouse NSFW, members pride themselves on being part of a membership-based LGBT-friendly sex club that offers a safe space for people to explore self-pleasure.
- To become a NSFW member, you have to apply and undergo consideration from the club’s membership chair, and sometimes club founder Daniel Saynt.
- The application process requires a written portion and sometimes a phone or video interview.
- Applicants may hear back about their requests anywhere from a few days to a few weeks after applying.
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The phrase “exclusive sex party” may elicit images of straight rich socialites having group sex in dark rooms, but at Manhattan-based playhouse NSFW, which stands for the ‘New Society for Wellness,’ members pride themselves on being part of an LGBT-friendly sex club that offers a safe space for people to explore self-pleasure regardless of income.
Consensual sexual experiences are the club’s hallmark, but some people who attend play parties, or parties where a group of people can explore these kinds of experiences with other attendees, may not even have sex. Instead, they spend time smoking a marijuana joint or sipping a cocktail while chatting with other club members to unwind after a long week.
Becoming a NSFW member does require undergoing a rigorous application process, but according to one member, the process isn’t that nerve-wracking.
Club founder Daniel Saynt said his team gets about 400 new applications every month and out of those, they end up accepting around 80.
Jen, a 35-year-old who lives and works in New York City, joined NSFW 14 months ago and said the membership application process was straightforward and focused on personality over physical appearance. The fact that physical appearance wasn’t emphasized was a surprise for Jen, who said NSFW was the first sex club she’d ever had an interest in joining.
“It’s so much more about what you have to say” than what you look like, said Jen, who asked to omit her last name for privacy reasons. “I mean, the crowd is overwhelmingly beautiful, but it’s still not the focus of NSFW.”
The more you pay, the more perks you get
According to Saynt, NSFW now has 2,000 members at various pricing tiers, ranging from $200 to $2,690 for annual membership. The more you pay, the more perks you get, including discounted or free tickets to NSFW workshops on topics like improving your relationship or tantra basics.
No matter which tier a person is interested in joining, they start with a written online application that involves building a profile and answering questions about intimacy, sexual fantasies, and self-pleasure, according to Jen.
For a question asking to describe her biggest fantasy, “I put that I just wanted to feel really safe and cared for,” Jen said.
Saynt said his team always asks potential members what they can contribute to NSFW. “Some people say, ‘Oh, positive energy,’ and other people, it’s like, ‘I’m a lawyer, so I can help with this.'” Both are great answers, he said.
Potential members are also asked about their previous sexual experiences and how they identify sexually. There’s a wide variety of options for this question, including “Labels are for Campbell’s soup cans, and I don’t label my sexuality.”
NSFW will also ask to see your social media pages
The application also asks for a link to the prospective member’s Instagram page.
“I remember going through pictures of myself and adding things to Instagram because I thought, ‘Oh, this must be some some super elite party and there are no pictures of me and I don’t look good enough,'” on Instagram, Jen said.
Now that Jen’s been a member for over a year, though, she said that initial concern feels silly.
According to Saynt, his team asks for social media profiles to get a better sense of a person’s hobbies and worldviews.
“The things that we look for are, What does their circle of friends look like? Are they well traveled and do they travel a lot? Do they experience the world and do they have a more worldly perspective on things?” Saynt said.
You also might have to do an interview over the phone or video
Although Jen didn’t have a phone or video interview following her online application and was invited to join the club five days after submitting it, that’s not always the case, Saynt said.
It’s up to the NSFW employee who handles memberships to decide if an additional interview step is needed, but generally speaking, they want to get a sense of a person’s political values and what they do for a living so they can decide if the applicant would mesh well with existing members, according to Saynt.
Once his team decides, which can take between a few days a four weeks, members can start on their first NSFW experience, whether it’s a play party or workshop.
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